The book of Titus tells us that it is grace that trains us to say no to ungodliness, rather than technique or determination. If we want to be full of self-control, we must be full of God’s grace.
The same grace that first bid you to say “No” is still with you. When your former lusts appear on your doorstep today, grace will be with you to train you. He will give you everything you need to say, “I’m not yours anymore,” and shut the door. For the grace that has appeared is the man Jesus Christ, the Bridegroom who came to make you his (Titus 2:14).
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